Слайд 2Balance is a myth. You will always be teetering, always on
the
Edge because that is how this home and work go together. The key
Is to identify who you are. What do you want? What is important to you?
The clearer we are as to why we choose to work, have a family,
multiply our sense of self, the better we are at handling, taking up
and prioritizing so that nothing suffers.
Слайд 3Sometimes home life is boring with its routine and sometimes
work
life is tedious with its demands. The key is to let the two intersect
to find the inspiration. For me as a designer, it meant really merging the
two so that one was not too boxed from the other. I t meant finding
my work/design solutions in my interactions with the kids and
my movements out and about.
I would be observing- a game here, a word or colour there…training myself
To use this to build a sort of a visual archive that I could dip into when
I needed to get back to work, without having felt that I was wasting my time.
Слайд 4Picking up from the last point of looking for inspiration out
and about,
I trained myself to be in an observing mode- a game here, a word or colour
there…teaching myself to use this to build a sort of a visual archive that I
could dip into when I needed to get back to work, without having
felt that I was wasting my time doing what is essentially also something
I have chosen to do- have a life.
Слайд 5One of the hardest things to do was to learnt to
switch off, without feeling
unprofessional. Without feeling like you are compromising your sense of work
or home life. I had to learn to be strict both with clients and myself.
Set your own boundaries, and stick to them. Tell them you are at a school pick
or you are at the park with your kids. Let them also understand that you
have opted to balance the two as opposed to cutting one out of your life
for the other. It makes you more well rounded. It makes you more interesting
and it makes you someone who can be professional about their dealings.
Слайд 6If you are going to undertake this tightrope act, well then
you had better be doing it because your life would be empty
and meaningless without it. Money will come and go but the
passion can sustain you through the challenging times.
When you choose to juggle, it will get hard. It will get frustrating and
Annoying and overwhelming and all those things that make us want to
hide, but what they say about love, yes, that old cliché, that is what
will pull you through. Because you love what you do.
Слайд 7Food, domestic help, family, friends, house are all things that aren’t
going away.
Whether you choose to work full time or part time or not at all, any conventional
Setting will mean that at least part of this will fall upon you. They will interrupt
all your plans, all your meetings, all your phone calls. Be prepared. Keep your cool.
Remember that with organization, you can do it all. Find systems that work for you.
Hide from the kids to make the calls that need to sound professional. Learn to reply
to emails with one hand and try to keep your sense of humor handy.
It is usually much needed.
Слайд 8With so many proverbial balls in the air, chances are each
day will bring
Its own set of who am I’s each day. One day you will be a better wife
than a designer, one day a better designer than a mom and another,
day simply better off alone. The thing is whatever you choose to be,
choose to be good at it. Wise man that Mr. Abraham Lincoln.
So whatever you are being that day, put the rest on hold and focus
on doing that to the best of your attempts.
If you try too hard to be all of the above, chances are you will be
mediocre at them all. May as well invest in one facet and make it worth it.
Слайд 9When I chose this box of working from home, I knew
I
Would have my work cut out simply because I know me.
I know how much I like the rest of life alongside my work
and once you choose that, it’s all forward moving.
So to not miss out on anything- from deadlines to birthday parties,
I started making lists. Some lists were almost opposite in nature
with both sabzi and client calls existing side by side. The I love you
Text to the husband the how are you feeling now to the ill friend-
it all came in the form of clearly bulleted points that I would take
great satisfaction in crossing off.
Слайд 10And sometimes it will get too much. It will all be
too much.
Then walk away. Say no. Walk away fast before you burn out.
Run to your safe place, whether that is work,
home or friends or family. Go where you feel recharged.
There is no shame in saying no, it shows strength of commitment
To be able to honestly assess what you are capable of. Be courteous, be
professional and be honest about what you can and will do.
Слайд 11And the most important truth I learned is that you simply
cannot do it alone.
Find your person, your village, your group of like minded, similarly
functioning people who will catch that ball that you missed.
Invest in them. Spoil them. Hang onto them.
They will get you through the hard parts, be the extra hands you wish for,
the sounding board for your ideas, the willing ear for the vents. So I will say
it again, find your people, gather your village because if there is one way
You can truly do it all (whatever that means) it is with the support of those
who believe in you and understand what you want out of life.
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